Making Decisions...

[Mysta]

*sighs*
Well,its not the first time, and i know it wont be the last, but, its come to my attention again, that *someone* has been spreading word of my personal business, my personal occupation, about, not just here, but other places...and, its getting really old.
Ive had members of home come out and ask me what it is that i do, and, frankly, its really no ones business but my own.
But, Im tired of seeing it get spread all about, and reaching the end of my rope here.
now that people i dont even know are talking about it, with information that they wouldnt have known otherwise, and, splashing it on other boards, PLUS this board before...makes me wonder if I really belong.
It hurts, when someone has to come and ask.."hey, can i ask you a personal qeustion? and they they ask, and im stunned by it.
I dont know how to deal with the behind the back stabbing anymore, christ, im not doing anything illegal.
But, im tired of having to explain myself, cause people who have never met me, have decided to listen to rumours from others, and spread them around.
Today was kind of the last straw,...Ill go compose myself, again, and, see what to do.

[Yahira]

Ya know, I don't know what it is that you do, and frankly, I couldn't care less.  It doesn't matter for a couple of reasons..  First, because I just seriously don't care.  If what you do is legal, and it is not endangering people, it doesn't matter to me at all.  Second, it's really none of my damned business.  Third, who the fuck is anyone else to judge anything you do in your life?  I mean..  Do they know every single thing that has happened in your life that may have brought you to different places in life?  I highly doubt that.. 

Soo..  with that said, I'll tell you what I was told once, a long time ago..  I was concerned about something that was said (I don't even know what the hell it was now..  That's how important it ended up being.  *L*).  Anyway, I was very upset and I was telling Raz about it.  He said how I'd effected them enough to want to talk about me, and to think about it like that.  As much as I do realize that it isn't easy to shrug things off, he was right.  They aren't worth the effort to care.  In the long run, do they REALLY matter? 

Hon, people are going to, unfortunately, run off at the mouth.  It's just the way it is.  You cannot change that, but what you can change is whether or not you let it get to you.  That takes a LOT of practice, too.  *L*

For lesson one, do this:

Hold up your hand.  It can be either the right or the left.  That doesn't matter even one little bit..  Now, turn it slowly so that your palm is facing you.  With that done, we come to the most important part of this lesson.  Slowly extend the middle finger.  *G*

Seriously, hon..  Let them just piss off.   

[just me]

i so have to agree with Yaya on this,  fuck them that have nothing better to do then have a sewage mouth, it just shows just how small a person they are and that they have nothing better to do with their lives,  -shrugs- words can only hurt so much, all they are are words, to me, they are the sorrier of the two -hugs- 

[Yetu]

I dont know what it is You do either... if its exotic dancing (just a guess)... hey mower power to You for having the guts and BODY to be able to do it... I know I never could... if You were a waitress in a topless bar... eh. oh well. hope You get alot of tips... what Im trying to say is that I agree with both Yahira and solli. *chuckles at the type of directions given for flipping someone off*

[Mysta]

Nope...far 'worse'
Ive made adult movies, for years, anddo bachelor parties and feature dance appearances.
But, Im called blatantly a 'whore'
Im 32, and, i like being able to stay home with my kids, 98 percent of the time, and to provide them with a nice house, everything they could want, and treatment for my baby's autism....
The posts on this board calling me that, were deleted, but they were still put there, by someone I dont even know, who lives here. But its spread....and, im tired of it...I dont hide what ive done or what i do...but im sick to death of being judged by it.
Fuck off.....those who do....
I choose to maintain my children in a non cockroach filled apartment, (expensive to find in vegas)and, to spend my time with them...Anything else, is secondary...in my eyes. But this spreading of such, by others, will be acted upon, by me, when I find it....any method I need to use.
*hugs You guys while I try to calm down, cause My backs up, and, Im ready for a fight*

[just me]

hun if you wanna know the truth, i admire you for being able to do that, i was an exoctic dancer for about 5 yrs, so yeah i kinda can understand the ummm "labeling" just take a deep breath and tell em to get a life and take a flyin leap at a rollin doughnut -hugs tight-

[DaPaleOne]

you know me..and i have known you for what?..ok won't put up the time frame here..lmao..but ya know what?...go for it...yer so far from a whore..a slut..shit they do it for free..-ducks before you hit me again-...anyways...you know how i think and that i rarely if ever sugar coat or NOT speak my mind...and as far as what anyone else thinks of what you do for a living..or how you manage to take care of your children...screw them...joke 'em if they can't take a fuck hun....if their noses are so far up that they drownin a light rain then let them sit there on their delicate sensibilities and spin on them..and you keep on doing what you want to do and can do and need to do to keep your life and that of your family going..'nuff said

[RAGNAR]

names...

[Mysta]

*hugs You guys after a Uber Ubar talk**S
thank you, for standing with me...family
damn hormones!!*chuckles wryly*

On the other hand, some excellent news...after removing much of the wheat flour products(You have NO idea how prevelent they are!)from the baby's diet...she has been more alert, looking right at my face when i call to her(after the umpteenth time, still*L*) and speaking more...finding different patterns to stack her toys in, instead of a straight line.....and....*drumroll*....She said Her first romanian word last eve!
Definately her fathers daughter.....she said..."Haiduk"..(which means outlaw*L*)
Im still looking for that enzyme, that is like a unicorn...youve heard of it, but you cant seem to find it or anyone whos heard of it....one that is purported to help, alot, in the place of medication, for children with autism.

I also strongly wish to have you guys read the other post i made, one taken from a AR board thread I made(this one has not degerated yet into a fistfight) and is food for though that everyone should digest...as it stands kinda on our doorstep.
But, thank you guys...and Ubar was right when he said...the only one who needs concern themself is the one who looks in the mirror....

[One Eye]

*snorts*  well I always took whore and slut as compliments.. and it always royally pissed those using the words off.

 whore.. some one who accepts money     in exchange for   their time and a skill. 

hell you wantto get down to it.. any one pullign a pay check is a whore..  selling themselves.  (just think job interview)

slut. a person that  enjoys the giving  and recieving of pleasure with one or more people.   

 now what is wrong with being a slut?   seems if more peopel were sluts the world would be  a better place.



 now as far as the nim rods  spreading rumours and judging..

 perhaps they are feelign a little cold and alone since they shattered all the glass in there little see through house


 helpful I hope.. but in no way meant as sarcastic or hurtful

[Mysta]

*laughs*..well, in the movie world, we get to use different terms..however, we cant control what the movies are called*L* one of mine is called "A Whores life, the dollhouse, pt 2"
great film, I just hated the guy I shot with.
*ponders dragging out codes, even with bleary too much shopping eyes, and going to keep Taryn company*

[Taryn]

you know what I have to say about this, as I always tell you, don't worry about the petty things you don't need to be stressed out by little things such as this... ~hugs~

~ponders dragging you into camp because there's only so much she can do before she gets itchy feet~

[DaPaleOne]

itchy feet?..fuck that lets go set things on fire...fire..heh heh....break things....hell lets make them evacuate turia..lol....-runs in circles screaming and flailing arms then runs into something and falls face first-

[Taryn]

~cackles evilly and rubs her hands together~

[Thalia]

You know what I love?

People who would condone someone's "alternative lifestyle choice" -- be it RT Gor, partner swapping, BDSM, or an open relationship --  but would call an adult film actress a slut.  I'll bet those same people don't boycott porn movies or strip clubs. 

Double standards abound, as do idiots.  If you're not ashamed of what you do, if it's the life for you, if you're not hurting anyone, if it enables you to be a good mother rather than detracting from the same, I don't see a thing wrong with your ADULT choice.