I just have a teenie bit of strength left for hugs to you guys*S*
will copy down my update here....its still a battle, but, i know it can be won...had a tech question as welll, but im in alot of tooth and jaw pain, so ill just copy here what i wrote before....body doesnt handle intense stress well*chuckles*
after a longggg scan of days and days of im's. messages, calls, etc...(and the help of a military friend of mine) we determined, the guy whos communication started alot of issues with her, was not indeed 15, but, a frigging frat boy....and, lots more...
all communicaton, has been agreed to be shut off, (even though hes still trying and im blocking him)
and, even though i had to set her down and yell at some portions of messages, pointing out stuff, and acted like a drill seargent, reducing her to tears, and stating that my daughter, was acting like a two faced, backstabbing, lying little trashmouth.... i simply said.."look at me"..
and, when she did, her eyes said it all....and i saw, and heard, from her words, the problems to work on....it was ...like, overwhelming, just that second, looking in her eyes....and seeing the truth of everything....and, seeing a younger me...
weve agreed, no inpatient treatment,and have laid down some ground rules....aka, no communication with this guy...etc...
im very relieved, i know its a long road, but, as i told her, shes my baby bird, and before she leaves the nest, its my job to make sure shes ok, and ready to*S*...we had a great hug and talk, and she apologized for the things shed said in im to her dad and his gf to them, which helped with their stress levels......taking away a lot of stress and anger...i hope it continues to do so.......now, i can pass out again....whew....
but, if anyone has knowledge of, or friends that do, of ways to prevent a (very damn computer literate, this guys a web developer and programmer, and makes melook like a 5 year old with a calculator)...
I need some help with ways to block him, already took away the phone, but, computer wise....have removed him from her im list and runescape, but theres about 100 other ways he likely can use....and even though i told him straight out, to stop it, leave her alone for her own recovery and treatment, and to desist....hes trying to continue.....
Any computer strategies in that dept would be soooooo helpful...
can email or msn me at
dasessy@hotmail.com...
But, I think were gonna make it*S*
I had to impersonate her, with my military friends help..(he was a former army counterintelligence and interrogator, his tips on what to say while i impersonated her for two hours to this guy, was, very informative....and we found that indeed, he responded to the stimuli that predators who 'groom' kids for themselves, with venom....
one thing i said in particular, (my friend yelled in the phone).."tell him youre not a virgin!!"...and i said...dude, you can be that blunt in YOUR work, but, ill just change the wording a bit, ok?*L*
He flipped....capslock went on, hes yelling, asking..WHO? WHO?? you told me you hadnt, ever!
and just flipped...
so i feigned innocence and said(while pretending to be her)..ohh, kissing lots but, nothing under underwear, isnt all the way?
THEN, he calmed.....and it was SOOOO obvious....that indeed, he was NO teenager....with his responses after....
if he continues to try to communicate, Im not quite sure what to take to the cops, as ive kept records of im's, where hes voluntered(when i was acting as her) to have her stay with him, if she ran away.....(that made my blood go cold) and alot more....saved communication TELLING him to desist talking....etc....and will be like a hawk...
But, if theres a way to just block his ip, or something, from my computers.....or something like it...please let me know!!!
*hugs and loves ya guys for letting me rant a bit*
