Dream, I had a son who had no focus in high school, and was not living up to his potential. I, and my Husband, had to make it clear to him that he would have to live with his consequences, and that when he was age 18 his butt would be out the door. He cleaned up, and is a decorated Marine Combat Veteran who did three tours of Iraq, and has three combat medals. He is now married, and a civilian contractor for a Naval AFB...we are eagerly waiting for a grandchild.
One of my partners talked about his daughter who was also difficult at that age. She wanted to drop out of school, and marry a loser...she was being defiant. He was very wise...He took two weeks off work, and took her around the campuses of California. She saw UCLA, Stanford, UCSB, UCSD, and others. They just walked around them...he didn't say anything other than she could go to any of these campuses...if she wanted...She dropped the loser, and graduated from UOP, and is married to an orthopedic surgeon. She saw what handsome and vital young men there were at the campuses...and the idea of staying with the older loser...drinking beer and watching him fighting in a Bar every Friday night lost her interest.
I won't, and can't give you advice, Dream...I can only describe my life experiences...I wish you well.
