More about playing out of tune...
I was asked to take on a very good private student when my friend, who taught him, was going to be away for several weeks. "He is very good, but needs to be coached, keep his bi-weekly lessons and you can keep the full fee his parents are paying. And, they pay CASH!!" Well, no-one had to tell Me, "Ms always needs cash to buy nice snacks", to accept the student, I REALLY LIKE CASH so I asked what he was working on so I could get familiar with it. He was working on pieces I had performed, so I felt comfortable teaching him.
He showed up, and was a very neat looking boy, and his Mother looked like a vulture and SHE DROVE A LARGE MERCEDES!!! i WANTED IT...but I was somewhat poor at the time. She looked me over, and insisted in looking into my studio, and commented that I needed to straighten things up, wondering how I could find my music. I also had several bows sitting on tables and three cakes of rosin on the floor, and a broken student cello in the corner, and I just said "Been busy".
He played a slow movement from a Brahms, and I carefully listened. Every note was PERFECTLY in tune...and I was left empty...there were no emotions of feelings communicated. He sat back and grinned..."I have this one mastered, we can work on something else." I sat for a moment...and almost gave up. I would select something new for him to work on. But, I actually LIKE getting someone to look at things differently. I told him, "Play the first 16 measures again". He did, and it was just as dank and empty. I said, "Here, listen to this..." and I played it, modulating the notes to help lead to the next note and to get color in the work. He stared me, and I said, "Play yours again". He did, and I played mine, and said, "We played the same notes, why do they sound different?" He stammered, and said, "We were not playing the same notes." I nodded, and said, "Let's play it together". We did...and clashed. I asked him, "Which did you like better?" He nodded, "You played better."
I chuckled as he sat, confused, and said, "You are almost at the level where you can begin to temper your notes. I was playing my notes slightly out of tune, but they were 'tempered'...not really out of tune,,,and they better expressed the work. Listen carefully to the Masters...they temper their notes all over the place. That is why it is so difficult to put together a string quartet. You get Musicians who don't temper the notes the same, well, they just play out of tune."
The Teacher called me later, and said, "He is much more enthusiastic about playing the cello, and he isn't just sitting in his chair and sawing the bow back and forth. He is listening to the sound he is producing, and working on changing it. What did you do?"
I replied..."I played out of tune" and hung up on her...giggling..
His parents contacted me, wanting me to take him on as a student, but I had to decline. I was a busy trial lawyer, and only had three students, and HATED when I had to cancel a lesson because I got a new case, or a case I thought I had control of grew fangs and tried to stomp me into the ground.
I should have married the Business Admin guy who chased me in college, when I was cute music major. He did well, and his wife had nice stuff and a cute little Mercedes. I could have remained a cute music major and done my best to remain a cute music performer.